A person’s personality is, by far, what makes people fall in love and stay in love, but it’s a person’s physicality, whether you want to admit it or not, that is the initial attraction button that causes a person to click on a picture or to walk across a room to talk to someone to try and get to know them.
Now, then, I’ve been dating online for a while now (Unfortunately) and this is something interesting I've noticed about a lot of single people.......It's funny, but it's like people always want to physically "upgrade." It doesn't always work out for them and they don't always get what they want, but that's one of the reasons I think many people stay
single for so long. Because they're always trying to improve their genetics or something. Big men and women want someone who looks better than they do, average men and women want someone who looks better than they do, and average looking and not so pleasing to look at people want someone who looks better than they do, but truly beautiful people are often times the only exception to that--they are fine dating people who look just like them.
single for so long. Because they're always trying to improve their genetics or something. Big men and women want someone who looks better than they do, average men and women want someone who looks better than they do, and average looking and not so pleasing to look at people want someone who looks better than they do, but truly beautiful people are often times the only exception to that--they are fine dating people who look just like them.
But the rest? It's like people either think they look a hell of a lot
better than they actually do, or SoMeThInG within them is telling them to
mate with people who look better. Maybe some sort of DNA-based desire to
advance the species. Heck if I know. I don' t know what it is. I
mean...you have no IDEA how many women I've seen and talked to who were
bigger or average or average looking or hideous and NEVER ONCE went after
someone of their own looks caliber. I mean, I know I'm not perfect
looking, but I know I have to be average for looks. Well, I can rarely even
get the attention of a plain girl most of the time because they're too
busy going after the Brad Pitts and the David Beckhams of the world
thinking they're somehow going to give them a shot. I mean, are people
really fooling themselves that much?
better than they actually do, or SoMeThInG within them is telling them to
mate with people who look better. Maybe some sort of DNA-based desire to
advance the species. Heck if I know. I don' t know what it is. I
mean...you have no IDEA how many women I've seen and talked to who were
bigger or average or average looking or hideous and NEVER ONCE went after
someone of their own looks caliber. I mean, I know I'm not perfect
looking, but I know I have to be average for looks. Well, I can rarely even
get the attention of a plain girl most of the time because they're too
busy going after the Brad Pitts and the David Beckhams of the world
thinking they're somehow going to give them a shot. I mean, are people
really fooling themselves that much?
Why is it I seem to be one of the few realistic ones? You see, when I look, I go after women who are cute, but not stunningly beautiful/model material or would make me feel
like I'm hideous. Just "cute." Someone to match me. I mean, I'm at
least somewhat cute I think. Not super cute, but somewhat. But even the
somewhat cute women are looking at the "super hot" guys, so I never get a
chance. It just sucks. I just wish people would stop trying to upgrade,
because when everyone is trying to upgrade, no one ends up with ANYTHING
because the people they're trying to upgrade to aren't going to really be
interested in anything but a short-term fling because they won't be
satisfied a lot of times. That's just what I'm seeing anyway, at least
from the "initial" attraction point.
like I'm hideous. Just "cute." Someone to match me. I mean, I'm at
least somewhat cute I think. Not super cute, but somewhat. But even the
somewhat cute women are looking at the "super hot" guys, so I never get a
chance. It just sucks. I just wish people would stop trying to upgrade,
because when everyone is trying to upgrade, no one ends up with ANYTHING
because the people they're trying to upgrade to aren't going to really be
interested in anything but a short-term fling because they won't be
satisfied a lot of times. That's just what I'm seeing anyway, at least
from the "initial" attraction point.
After that and the personality comes into play things get a lot more tricky since that's what allows us to stay with people and have relationships with them (Or not). But initially..the clicking on a picture issue or walking across the room issue all seems to
be based on physical attraction, and the people the certain types are attracted to are just oh so out of their freaking leagues, and when someone of their own caliber comes near, it's just not good enough for them. It just ticks me off to no end. I mean, don't these people own a mirror? They're not THAT good looking!!!!! So come on! Be honest with yourself.
be based on physical attraction, and the people the certain types are attracted to are just oh so out of their freaking leagues, and when someone of their own caliber comes near, it's just not good enough for them. It just ticks me off to no end. I mean, don't these people own a mirror? They're not THAT good looking!!!!! So come on! Be honest with yourself.
Okay, I’m stepping down from the podium now.
