So I was talking to this woman online today and telling her why I thought I couldn't find anyone, the subject of "bad men", kids, and other such things and here's what I said.
Anyway, thanks....as I've always said....50-60 years ago women would be lined up around the block for someone like me, but we now live in an age where "thugs who treat women poorly" get the girls, and I'm not about to lower myself to that level just to have someone. So, I'd rather be single. But if you look around--I mean truly look around at the men women are choosing you really should have no difficulty in ascertaining why the divorce rate is so high. Although people in today's day and age hate it when you generalize, how you convey yourself via physicality as well as mannerism, at least for males, often times goes hand in hand about what kind of person they are. If they don't have respect for themselves or
others, many women think that kind of "I don't care" virility is somehow "hot" but, in essence, it just
indicates that they might be fun to play with in the bedroom because a lot of women unfortunately like to be man-handled and dominated like that, but it also indicates they're going to be VERY short-term
relationship partners or will end up being on the other end of a divorce one day.
So, anyway, I don't blame you for being particular on who you would want to mate with. I have female friends who are single, and I have female friends who have been stuck in marriages they wish they never started because that "virility" factor in their husbands ended up making them unsympathetic or cheating, and the list goes on and on. Quite frankly, certain traits go hand in hand with certain bad behaviors. Period. I know it seems like generalizing, but in all of my years of observation, it seems to be true.
As I've always said...this isn't freaking Disney here. In real life, a beast always stays a beast. There is no
prince when it comes to those types.
Oh, and yes, I've noticed how many women are afraid of kids nowadays. I think a lot of it stems from
selfishness though, to be honest with you. Although many have merit for wanting to avoid it due to the horrible choices in men out there, I think this generation was raised in such a "Gimme gimme gimme" society that giving to someone else means they won't get to have as much. But you know what? From the parents I've talked to, once their children are born, they all say it's the best thing they ever did and then overall they'd sacrifice anything for them. I think, until it happens, you just don't realize the true nature of what is really important and what is not.
As for being in fear...all you have to do, really, is put men through tests. Test him, test his friends....talk to people he's known the longest. I have always said that a person who has nothing to hide hides nothing. I'll let any girl who I'm dating talk to any and all of my friends and even girlfriends I'm still on good speaking terms with in order to better gage who I really am. And we're talking LONG time friends too. Some who have know me since we were in Jr. high together, a couple even in grade school. I know how difficult it is to believe someone when they often put their best foot forward in the beginning, but I have NO problem having a person I'm interested in getting input from others about me in order to form their own conclusions. How many men will say THAT? LOL
