I recently gave some advice to a young woman on how to stop being in the friend zone. Here's what I said...
The first thing you can do is improve your body language. Learn how to flirt a little more. Most
communication on a human level happens with body language. Forget words, forget similar interests...you can be the greatest talker in the world and have so much
in common it's not even funny, without an attraction via body language it's not going to mean anything. So, when talking to a guy, look into his eyes, but relax your eyes when you do. Nod your head in a agreement every now and then while you have a cutesy smile on your face, talk
slowly but playfully, every now and then put your fingers through your hair perhaps behind your neck line and do it SLOWLY so he sees, sit as close as you can to him without making him feel uncomfortable if he's new, lightly touch your shoe on his and then say "Oh, sorry", and things of that nature. These are cues men will like. Proximity, touch, flirtiness, making us know you're paying attention to us. Make us feel wanted, and we'll start thinking outside of the friend zone. Just don't overdo it. You don't want him thinking you want to start ripping his clothes off unless you're already in a relationship. Then well...hey...all's fair. ;) LOL
Another thing is....don't show too many masculine traits. Present yourself like a man, and a man
won't think of you as anything but a man. This is a common problem for a lot of younger women, and especially Florida women it seems. For example, my new friend mentioned in her ad that she liked to play Xbox, which is fine because that "is" a unisex endeavor, but she said Call of Duty, which is a violent war game. Nothing screams androgyny like a woman who likes violent war games. If a woman mentions Xbox or another video game system, she should mention a game that she likes that is less violent. Something that doesn't make a man think of another man. Or if a woman mention going out for drinks, she should say drinks, not beer. Although I don't drink at all, I do know that although many men say they like to be able to drink beers with the girls, almost none of them think of their female "buds" as nothing more. So mention drinks if that's something you mention and when you're with them, order something other than a beer. Trust me on this.
You see...men don't realize this....but although many of them say they would love a girl to play war games with them and drink beers and watch sports, they're almost never attracted to them beyond friends. Reason? Because we have thousands of years of biological evolution that tells us to go after women who present an aura of innocence, femininity, nurturing potential, as well as responsibility. Why? Many men don't realize why women like I mentioned seemed more ideal, but it's ALL about being a potential lifelong mate and mother. That's why the androgynous women often end up as buddies, the wild or unstable ones end up getting used for sex, and the calmer, more laid-back but feminine ones get first pick.
So...if you want to fish, use the right bait. Know what men like and what they don't. That's the only way to step out of the friend zone. No matter "how much" a woman thinks times have changed, you can't combat 50 years of gender ambiguity when concerning likes/roles, etc. with 50 THOUSAND years (And perhaps longer) of how long men have been this way concerning our internal drive to prefer certain types of women for mates.
So....it's just something to think about. And yes, I've thought about this and researched this for a looooong time.
