If you want to know the truth, the majority of the good guys are usually home alone on the weekends, or the solitary shy ones who see movies alone or grocery shop alone. I'm sure a lot of women may think that if a guy is alone something must be wrong with him but, in fact, it's usually just because he's afraid of rejection, which means he's sensitive. And the sensitive ones are also, usually, the most romantic "and" in tune with feelings and such, which means those are the ones who can relate to women on their level.
Many women are under the assumption that the more dangerous or virile or tough or forward ones are "hot" and, therefore are the most desirable when, in effect, those same overly assertive qualities that women think make them "hot" partners physically ends up making them unruly partners emotionally because of all of that abundance of testosterone, and those kinds of relationships usually fail due to all of the arguments and such that follow. That tough, seemingly lack of caring what people think, take charge kind of guy may make you weak in the knees because you are given a break from thinking for a while, but once you start thinking and feeling you're going to realize men like that get old....fast.
So, if you want someone to be in tune with you for a lifetime, look for someone who has a brain and a heart and an abundance of emotions and leave the tough guys to their beer, sports, and right hands.
Overall, the good guys aren't as rare as you think, you just have to be looking in the right place and for the right kind of people in order to find one. So, don't give up! We're out there but, truth be told, you're probably going to have to approach US or else we'll probably be too in fear of losing out to the "wrong" ones who keep getting your attention and therefore will probably not make a move. So, if you want a good guy, approach one. You've now been given some clues on how to find them.
Brent
Thursday, September 29, 2011
Monday, September 26, 2011
2010-2011---not the best of times...
2010-2011 hasn't been kind to me. I moved away for love and left my old life--I risked everything, only to be devastated and betrayed. I then returned to the area, and was devastated and betrayed by yet another shortly thereafter. To top it off, I ended up coming back during a major recession in my area and it's been a task trying to get my life re-started ever since. However, with every downfall comes a shining light to guide me towards something better.
My light of guidance is knowledge. One thing I learned is that I need normalcy in my life with someone balanced. I'm looking for someone mentally stable who makes good decisions and thinks of others before making them, likes to share, has a conscience and uses it, and believes in working things out before making rash decisions. I'm looking for someone who can inspire me each and every single day to want to be a better man and, in turn, by being that man I can inspire her to be the woman she has always dreamed of.
I can stand by her side and give her plenty of laughter and hope, can fill her mind with new ways of looking at the world, make her realize that some men do still have romance instilled within them and have the desire for something long-term, and can put her in awe of how I stand firmly by my ideals and won't let society influence my decisions when I believe that they are sound ones.
My light of guidance is knowledge. One thing I learned is that I need normalcy in my life with someone balanced. I'm looking for someone mentally stable who makes good decisions and thinks of others before making them, likes to share, has a conscience and uses it, and believes in working things out before making rash decisions. I'm looking for someone who can inspire me each and every single day to want to be a better man and, in turn, by being that man I can inspire her to be the woman she has always dreamed of.
I can stand by her side and give her plenty of laughter and hope, can fill her mind with new ways of looking at the world, make her realize that some men do still have romance instilled within them and have the desire for something long-term, and can put her in awe of how I stand firmly by my ideals and won't let society influence my decisions when I believe that they are sound ones.
Friday, September 23, 2011
The Wal-Mart Parking Lot
Am I the only one who does this?
I can't tell you how many times I got out of Wal-Mart, my NOT-so-favorite place by the way since it is always ridiculously crowded, and can't seem to find my car. Yes, I know there's supposed to be markers telling you which aisle you're in, and I know I should be looking for exact rows when I get out of my car and associate them with something familiar but, alas, I just seem to forget this since I always seem so eager to get my errands done.
Anyway, I often find myself blindly walking around with my shopping cart, pressing the horn button on my keychain remote as to try and locate it by ear. And, of course, my keychain only throws out a signal so far so until I'm relatively close to it there's no conceivable way I'm going to get the horn of my car to honk. What's really sucky is when I hear the horn honk and find that I parked in the next aisle, and the ONLY way to get to it is to move the shopping cart filled with groceries over these concrete median/dividers. I'm sure I look like a spectacular idiot doing that, but hey, as if I didn't look ridiculous enough walking around obviously lost pressing a keychain and looking left to right to signal everyone that I'm a goofball who can't even remember where he parked his car.
Sigh.
Has anyone else done this?
I can't tell you how many times I got out of Wal-Mart, my NOT-so-favorite place by the way since it is always ridiculously crowded, and can't seem to find my car. Yes, I know there's supposed to be markers telling you which aisle you're in, and I know I should be looking for exact rows when I get out of my car and associate them with something familiar but, alas, I just seem to forget this since I always seem so eager to get my errands done.
Anyway, I often find myself blindly walking around with my shopping cart, pressing the horn button on my keychain remote as to try and locate it by ear. And, of course, my keychain only throws out a signal so far so until I'm relatively close to it there's no conceivable way I'm going to get the horn of my car to honk. What's really sucky is when I hear the horn honk and find that I parked in the next aisle, and the ONLY way to get to it is to move the shopping cart filled with groceries over these concrete median/dividers. I'm sure I look like a spectacular idiot doing that, but hey, as if I didn't look ridiculous enough walking around obviously lost pressing a keychain and looking left to right to signal everyone that I'm a goofball who can't even remember where he parked his car.
Sigh.
Has anyone else done this?
Adults Truths
A friend posted this on Facebook. I thought it was cute, so I'm snatching it for a bit.
****** 23 ADULT TRUTHS ******
1 Sometimes I'll look down at my watch 3 consecutive times and still not know what time it is.
2. Nothing sucks more than that moment during an argument when you realize you're wrong.
...
3. I totally take back all those times I didn't want to nap when I was younger.
4. There is great need for a sarcasm font.
5. How the hell are you supposed to fold a fitted sheet?
6. Was learning cursive really necessary?
7. Map Quest really needs to start their directions on # 5. I'm pretty sure I know how to get out of my neighborhood.
8. Obituaries would be a lot more interesting if they told you how the person died.
9. I can't remember the last time I wasn't at least kind-of tired.
10. Bad decisions make good stories.
11. You never know when it will strike, but there comes a moment at work when you know that you just aren't going to do anything
productive for the rest of the day.
12. Can we all just agree to ignore whatever comes after Blue Ray? I don't want to have to restart my collection...again.
13. I'm always slightly terrified when I exit out of Word and it asks me if I want to save any changes to my ten-page technical report
that I swear I did not make any changes to.
14. I keep some people's phone numbers in my phone just so I know not to answer when they call.
15. I think the freezer deserves a light as well.
16. I disagree with Kay Jewelers. I would bet on any given Friday or Saturday night more kisses begin with Miller Light than Kay.
17. I wish Google Maps had an "Avoid Ghetto" routing option.
18. I have a hard time deciphering the fine line between boredom and hunger.
19. How many times is it appropriate to say "What?" before you just nod and smile because you still didn't hear or understand a word
they said?
20. I love the sense of camaraderie when an entire line of cars team up to prevent a jerk from cutting in at the front. Stay strong,
brothers and sisters!
21. Shirts get dirty. Underwear gets dirty. Pants? Pants never get dirty, and you can wear them forever.
22. Even under ideal conditions people have trouble locating their car keys in a pocket, finding their cell phone, and Pinning the Tail on
the Donkey - but I'd bet everyone can find and push the snooze button from 3 feet away, in about 1.7 seconds, eyes closed, first time,
every time.
23. The first testicular guard, the "Cup," was used in Hockey in 1874 and the first helmet was used in 1974. That means it only took
100 years for men to realize that their brain is also important.
****** 23 ADULT TRUTHS ******
1 Sometimes I'll look down at my watch 3 consecutive times and still not know what time it is.
2. Nothing sucks more than that moment during an argument when you realize you're wrong.
...
3. I totally take back all those times I didn't want to nap when I was younger.
4. There is great need for a sarcasm font.
5. How the hell are you supposed to fold a fitted sheet?
6. Was learning cursive really necessary?
7. Map Quest really needs to start their directions on # 5. I'm pretty sure I know how to get out of my neighborhood.
8. Obituaries would be a lot more interesting if they told you how the person died.
9. I can't remember the last time I wasn't at least kind-of tired.
10. Bad decisions make good stories.
11. You never know when it will strike, but there comes a moment at work when you know that you just aren't going to do anything
productive for the rest of the day.
12. Can we all just agree to ignore whatever comes after Blue Ray? I don't want to have to restart my collection...again.
13. I'm always slightly terrified when I exit out of Word and it asks me if I want to save any changes to my ten-page technical report
that I swear I did not make any changes to.
14. I keep some people's phone numbers in my phone just so I know not to answer when they call.
15. I think the freezer deserves a light as well.
16. I disagree with Kay Jewelers. I would bet on any given Friday or Saturday night more kisses begin with Miller Light than Kay.
17. I wish Google Maps had an "Avoid Ghetto" routing option.
18. I have a hard time deciphering the fine line between boredom and hunger.
19. How many times is it appropriate to say "What?" before you just nod and smile because you still didn't hear or understand a word
they said?
20. I love the sense of camaraderie when an entire line of cars team up to prevent a jerk from cutting in at the front. Stay strong,
brothers and sisters!
21. Shirts get dirty. Underwear gets dirty. Pants? Pants never get dirty, and you can wear them forever.
22. Even under ideal conditions people have trouble locating their car keys in a pocket, finding their cell phone, and Pinning the Tail on
the Donkey - but I'd bet everyone can find and push the snooze button from 3 feet away, in about 1.7 seconds, eyes closed, first time,
every time.
23. The first testicular guard, the "Cup," was used in Hockey in 1874 and the first helmet was used in 1974. That means it only took
100 years for men to realize that their brain is also important.
Thursday, September 22, 2011
Likes
I thought I'd list off some things I like, no matter how weird.
1. People who use turn signals
2. Wholesome looking "Girl next door" types
3. Cute women in glasses. With an emphasis on the word cute. Otherwise, it just doesn't have the same effect. :P
4. People who say thank you and please
5. People who rarely curse
6. The rare women over 21 who actually don't drink or drink rarely.
7. The rare women over 18 who do not have any tattoos. You can usually find them nowadays hanging out with Bigfoot or the Loch Ness Monster. But I DO so love spotting them from time to time.
8. Blue or green eyes that have a really vivid color.
9. Blonde girls with really, really light blonde hair and extremely pale skin. Okay, so maybe I have a thing for Albinos. LOL
10. Ears that stick out a little. I think that's cute
11. Freckles.
12. Long, straight hair on women. Very feminine.
13. Kittens. Yes, I said kittens. You can hang them all over you and they stick. It's quite the fashion statement, you know. LOL
14. Lobster and crab and shrimp and pizza. Yummy yummy yummy.
15. 70s-80s music. I so love it.
16. Clothes without any writing on them. It's so difficult to find nowadays in the men's department.
17. Old stuff. Furniture, pottery, glass, lamps...anything vintage or old is cool.
18. Women who don't get bored easily. I like hanging around people who don't always need to be entertained.
19. Women who aren't skanky but, yet, assertive and confident enough to be intimate with the person they love without being so darned shy. Shy is only cute for a little bit, but after that it gets to be a little annoying.
20. Old people who are really friendly.
There's a lot more, but that's a good start.
1. People who use turn signals
2. Wholesome looking "Girl next door" types
3. Cute women in glasses. With an emphasis on the word cute. Otherwise, it just doesn't have the same effect. :P
4. People who say thank you and please
5. People who rarely curse
6. The rare women over 21 who actually don't drink or drink rarely.
7. The rare women over 18 who do not have any tattoos. You can usually find them nowadays hanging out with Bigfoot or the Loch Ness Monster. But I DO so love spotting them from time to time.
8. Blue or green eyes that have a really vivid color.
9. Blonde girls with really, really light blonde hair and extremely pale skin. Okay, so maybe I have a thing for Albinos. LOL
10. Ears that stick out a little. I think that's cute
11. Freckles.
12. Long, straight hair on women. Very feminine.
13. Kittens. Yes, I said kittens. You can hang them all over you and they stick. It's quite the fashion statement, you know. LOL
14. Lobster and crab and shrimp and pizza. Yummy yummy yummy.
15. 70s-80s music. I so love it.
16. Clothes without any writing on them. It's so difficult to find nowadays in the men's department.
17. Old stuff. Furniture, pottery, glass, lamps...anything vintage or old is cool.
18. Women who don't get bored easily. I like hanging around people who don't always need to be entertained.
19. Women who aren't skanky but, yet, assertive and confident enough to be intimate with the person they love without being so darned shy. Shy is only cute for a little bit, but after that it gets to be a little annoying.
20. Old people who are really friendly.
There's a lot more, but that's a good start.
Pet Peeves
I thought I'd mention some of my pet peeves
1. People who don't use turn signals. Seriously, folks. That's very selfish and an accident waiting to happen. Turn signals are used to alert OTHERS of where you're going so they don't slam into you. If you care about your life and your car and the lives of others, USE them.
2. People who get on dating sites saying they're just looking for friends, when we all know very well that diving into a pool filled with single people is no way to make "just friends." Fess up. We all know you're trying to find someone special.
3. Large women who wear cut-off shirts who seriously shouldn't be showing off their stomachs. Seriously, people--if you look like you have a giant spare tire for a belly, be honest with yourself...if a guy with a giant Buddah belly did that, would you want to see that uncovered when you were out and about at a supermarket?
4. Old guys driving around in convertible sports cars who think they're cool. While, yes, I fully understand that they probably just NOW are able to afford that sports car, the "cool" effect left the building once they lost most of their hair and had so many wrinkles their face looks like a road map. If I can afford a sports car when I'm older, I'm going to make it a point NOT to buy a convertible and perhaps even have the windows tinted so I don't look like a fool trying to relive my youth. LOL
5. People who drive too fast in residential neighborhoods or parking lots. Seriously. That's how people get killed, folks. SLOW DOWN.
6. People who think marijuana isn't a drug. Really? Put some in your hand and show it to a local police officer. I bet he/she'll disagree. :)
7. People who say they only drink socially, but then go out all the time so their social drinking becomes a very often sort of occurrence. If you do it all the time, it's no longer social drinking. It's an AA meeting waiting to happen.
8. People who smoke. Get that disgusting smelling cancer-filled stuff AWAY from my nostrils!
9. Restaurants that are so loud or have so many people that I can't make out what in the heck even the person next to me is saying.
10. People who have sex with people they don't love. Sheesh. Just masturbate people. It's the better choice than being a ho.
11. People who don't have balance. Yes, while mental stability is EXTREMELY important, that's not the kind of balance I'm talking about. I see people who always talk about God, or are SOLELY into artsy endeavors or SOLELY into nerdy endeavors or SOLELY into sports. While it's inspiring when someone is passionate about something, that also rules single people out from TONS of different types of people if they aren't more well-rounded. Take me for example. While I do love antiques, vintage stuff, history, and art and can be considered somewhat artsy due to that, I also love superheroes and computers and fantasy based things so can be a bit nerdy as well. In addition, I love looking at nature and scenery and study nutrition and such so I'm also very earthy and natural, although I prefer to do the "looking" with sunblock and bug spray or from a distance. So, it's good to be well-rounded. It allows you to have more topics to discuss with others.
12. People who ditch furniture just because it's not new. With a little patience and effort, you can make some vintage or antique item shine again and not only will it probably be made out of something that is more natural and far superior than anything made today, but it will have a little history, too, which is something you can pass down to your family.
13. People who curse. I mean, if you ever get really mad or frustrated or drop a bowling ball on your foot, I can see that as a good reason. But otherwise, it just makes a person sound like an idiot with the IQ of a brick.
14. Women who say they don't need makeup but, in effect, they REALLY REALLY REALLY do. LOL. Of course, we're all afraid to tell them that, but we sure wish someone would.
15. How younger men often have great locks of hair and let it grow some, but then for some strange reason once they hit 18 they buzz it all off (At least down here) and I find myself surrounded by these thuggish looking dudes who look like they all just joined the army in the 1960s. I've always kept medium length hair for a reason. Not only does it de-emphasize the size of my large brain-filled cranium, but I know that, one day, I may not have it to enjoy. So, enjoy it while you can, guys. Stop shaving it all off.
16. Piercings other than your ears. Seriously. Why do you people think it looks attractive looking like you were the unfortunate by-standard in a fishing accident? Trust me, it's not cute, and it's SUPER distracting. It's very difficult for me to look into a woman's eyes if all I can see is this shiny thing on her nose.
17. I don't like tattoos to begin with, but the super annoying people to me are the ones who are SUPER beautiful people who get them, ruining the gorgeous skin that they were given. As an example, if you look like a Supermodel and cover 1/2 your torso with a tattoo, you've not only lost the perfect natural beauty that you were born with, but it also dropped your IQ down to about 2 for doing that. I mean, if you're driving around in a Lamborghini, you don't put a giant picture of Snoopy on the front of the car. You leave the car ALONE because it's awesome just the way that it is.
18. People who dress up their pets all the time. Seriously, folks. JUST HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE OR GO TO A SPERM BANK and get the kids you so obviously desire. LOL
19. How Facebook seems to change things about every 6 months, so once I get used to how things are, they move them around on me.
20. How young men's clothing all looks like someone sprayed graffiti on them. Being a smaller male, I'm forced to shop in the young men's department. This means it sometimes takes me eons to find something that doesn't make me look like a NY subway station wall or a walking billboard advertisement for whoever manufactured the clothes.
21. Women who show non-stop cleavage. As a male, I WANT to look, but that's the problem. Not having grown up with that, it's difficult to make eye contact when a woman wears stuff like that around me. So, if she wants to be with me, she seriously needs to save it for the beach or the bedroom. Or else I'm going to seriously get to know her boobs very well. And her face? Not so much. Seriously--that's like shining a flashlight on the floor and expecting a cat not to be enamored by it. So, want me to look up? Then cover those puppies up a little.
22. People who complain that they're too big or can't lose any weight, but they eat tons of pasta, wheat-based products, or junk food. A calorie is a calorie folks, no matter where it comes from. Do the math. Look how the Japanese eat--little bitty portions and several tiny little meals throughout the day. Not gargantuan-sized portions filled with calorie-dense foods. It should be a no-brainer why we're now the most overweight and obese country on the planet.
23. People who have so much energy they can never seem to sit down or constantly need to be entertained or they get bored. Wow--they SO won't last in a long-term relationship with kids, will they?
Well, that's it for now! Trust me--there's more! LOL
1. People who don't use turn signals. Seriously, folks. That's very selfish and an accident waiting to happen. Turn signals are used to alert OTHERS of where you're going so they don't slam into you. If you care about your life and your car and the lives of others, USE them.
2. People who get on dating sites saying they're just looking for friends, when we all know very well that diving into a pool filled with single people is no way to make "just friends." Fess up. We all know you're trying to find someone special.
3. Large women who wear cut-off shirts who seriously shouldn't be showing off their stomachs. Seriously, people--if you look like you have a giant spare tire for a belly, be honest with yourself...if a guy with a giant Buddah belly did that, would you want to see that uncovered when you were out and about at a supermarket?
4. Old guys driving around in convertible sports cars who think they're cool. While, yes, I fully understand that they probably just NOW are able to afford that sports car, the "cool" effect left the building once they lost most of their hair and had so many wrinkles their face looks like a road map. If I can afford a sports car when I'm older, I'm going to make it a point NOT to buy a convertible and perhaps even have the windows tinted so I don't look like a fool trying to relive my youth. LOL
5. People who drive too fast in residential neighborhoods or parking lots. Seriously. That's how people get killed, folks. SLOW DOWN.
6. People who think marijuana isn't a drug. Really? Put some in your hand and show it to a local police officer. I bet he/she'll disagree. :)
7. People who say they only drink socially, but then go out all the time so their social drinking becomes a very often sort of occurrence. If you do it all the time, it's no longer social drinking. It's an AA meeting waiting to happen.
8. People who smoke. Get that disgusting smelling cancer-filled stuff AWAY from my nostrils!
9. Restaurants that are so loud or have so many people that I can't make out what in the heck even the person next to me is saying.
10. People who have sex with people they don't love. Sheesh. Just masturbate people. It's the better choice than being a ho.
11. People who don't have balance. Yes, while mental stability is EXTREMELY important, that's not the kind of balance I'm talking about. I see people who always talk about God, or are SOLELY into artsy endeavors or SOLELY into nerdy endeavors or SOLELY into sports. While it's inspiring when someone is passionate about something, that also rules single people out from TONS of different types of people if they aren't more well-rounded. Take me for example. While I do love antiques, vintage stuff, history, and art and can be considered somewhat artsy due to that, I also love superheroes and computers and fantasy based things so can be a bit nerdy as well. In addition, I love looking at nature and scenery and study nutrition and such so I'm also very earthy and natural, although I prefer to do the "looking" with sunblock and bug spray or from a distance. So, it's good to be well-rounded. It allows you to have more topics to discuss with others.
12. People who ditch furniture just because it's not new. With a little patience and effort, you can make some vintage or antique item shine again and not only will it probably be made out of something that is more natural and far superior than anything made today, but it will have a little history, too, which is something you can pass down to your family.
13. People who curse. I mean, if you ever get really mad or frustrated or drop a bowling ball on your foot, I can see that as a good reason. But otherwise, it just makes a person sound like an idiot with the IQ of a brick.
14. Women who say they don't need makeup but, in effect, they REALLY REALLY REALLY do. LOL. Of course, we're all afraid to tell them that, but we sure wish someone would.
15. How younger men often have great locks of hair and let it grow some, but then for some strange reason once they hit 18 they buzz it all off (At least down here) and I find myself surrounded by these thuggish looking dudes who look like they all just joined the army in the 1960s. I've always kept medium length hair for a reason. Not only does it de-emphasize the size of my large brain-filled cranium, but I know that, one day, I may not have it to enjoy. So, enjoy it while you can, guys. Stop shaving it all off.
16. Piercings other than your ears. Seriously. Why do you people think it looks attractive looking like you were the unfortunate by-standard in a fishing accident? Trust me, it's not cute, and it's SUPER distracting. It's very difficult for me to look into a woman's eyes if all I can see is this shiny thing on her nose.
17. I don't like tattoos to begin with, but the super annoying people to me are the ones who are SUPER beautiful people who get them, ruining the gorgeous skin that they were given. As an example, if you look like a Supermodel and cover 1/2 your torso with a tattoo, you've not only lost the perfect natural beauty that you were born with, but it also dropped your IQ down to about 2 for doing that. I mean, if you're driving around in a Lamborghini, you don't put a giant picture of Snoopy on the front of the car. You leave the car ALONE because it's awesome just the way that it is.
18. People who dress up their pets all the time. Seriously, folks. JUST HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE OR GO TO A SPERM BANK and get the kids you so obviously desire. LOL
19. How Facebook seems to change things about every 6 months, so once I get used to how things are, they move them around on me.
20. How young men's clothing all looks like someone sprayed graffiti on them. Being a smaller male, I'm forced to shop in the young men's department. This means it sometimes takes me eons to find something that doesn't make me look like a NY subway station wall or a walking billboard advertisement for whoever manufactured the clothes.
21. Women who show non-stop cleavage. As a male, I WANT to look, but that's the problem. Not having grown up with that, it's difficult to make eye contact when a woman wears stuff like that around me. So, if she wants to be with me, she seriously needs to save it for the beach or the bedroom. Or else I'm going to seriously get to know her boobs very well. And her face? Not so much. Seriously--that's like shining a flashlight on the floor and expecting a cat not to be enamored by it. So, want me to look up? Then cover those puppies up a little.
22. People who complain that they're too big or can't lose any weight, but they eat tons of pasta, wheat-based products, or junk food. A calorie is a calorie folks, no matter where it comes from. Do the math. Look how the Japanese eat--little bitty portions and several tiny little meals throughout the day. Not gargantuan-sized portions filled with calorie-dense foods. It should be a no-brainer why we're now the most overweight and obese country on the planet.
23. People who have so much energy they can never seem to sit down or constantly need to be entertained or they get bored. Wow--they SO won't last in a long-term relationship with kids, will they?
Well, that's it for now! Trust me--there's more! LOL
Huh.
I find myself increasingly attracted to younger women. I mean, is this Biology's way of trying to find more suitable mating partners for some sort of grounded in DNA-based conception purposes? I do know that the younger a woman is the greater the chances she'll have healthy offspring. So, is that why? Or do you think perhaps my mind hasn't really adjusted to the fact that I'm no longer a late teen to early 20 something? I was in Petco yesterday and was flirting with a girl who seriously had to have been a freshman in college and although it felt nice at the time, when the conversation was over and I left I thought, "Wow, we had chemistry but, overall, what in the heck would I have in common with an 18-19 year old"?
I don't know--maybe when a lot of us look in the mirror we SEE someone a lot younger than others do and therefore are convinced that's the age we are when we look at others. Then again, if that was the case, why would an 18 year old girl be flirting with me like that? It can't be a money thing. I didn't exactly pull up in a limo or a porsche or anything.
Anyway, it's just really interesting how sometimes we look at people we probably shouldn't. Maybe I just like the wholesome/innocent look because it's not as intimidating and I just rarely find that in women who are older down here due to massive amounts of sun-based skin damage. Where I'm originally from that wasn't as much of a problem. But down here it's like a non-stop commercial for the 1980's California Raisins. People age at a massively tremendous rate compared to where I'm from.
I don't know--maybe when a lot of us look in the mirror we SEE someone a lot younger than others do and therefore are convinced that's the age we are when we look at others. Then again, if that was the case, why would an 18 year old girl be flirting with me like that? It can't be a money thing. I didn't exactly pull up in a limo or a porsche or anything.
Anyway, it's just really interesting how sometimes we look at people we probably shouldn't. Maybe I just like the wholesome/innocent look because it's not as intimidating and I just rarely find that in women who are older down here due to massive amounts of sun-based skin damage. Where I'm originally from that wasn't as much of a problem. But down here it's like a non-stop commercial for the 1980's California Raisins. People age at a massively tremendous rate compared to where I'm from.
Well...
I don't know if I shouldn't have said anything to the Idaho girl or if I was right to let her know how I feel. Should I have given her more time to see if she was what I needed, or did my perception/analyzation skills hit the mark right off the bat? I don't know. What I do know, however, is that I only received one brief message from her since the night we talked about this stuff. Sigh. Oh well. Nothing I can do now. Back to the drawing board I suppose.
Wednesday, September 21, 2011
Hmmm.....
I'm having second thoughts about the Idaho girl. I've felt an ache in my chest ever since I told her what I told her, and hadn't heard from her all day and it really, really bothered me. Hmmm.........
So...
So....about the girl I had been talking with online. Great gal, but I just don't think she's ready for someone like me yet "and" she lives way too far away. I need someone who is really assertive, knows fully well what a two-way street is, has no trouble expressing her feelings and being forward in all ways, as well as being in proximity so that we can hang out and enjoy one another's company. Although really sweet and we did have tons in common, even if the distance thing wouldn't have been a problem, there's some definite things she needed to work on to be ready for someone like me. First and foremost, people need to know that I hate to be teased. If I'm expressing myself and she's enjoying it, in whatever fashion that may be, whether verbally or physically, she needs to reciprocate. If she doesn't do that, my interest wanes considerably. Not only is that a way to assure the other person that what they're feeling or doing is something they appreciate, but their giving nature should make them want to appease the person who is giving them that gesture by returning the favor. If they don't do that, it's not a two-way street but one that is only one way.
I've had way too many relationships in my lifetime where I was the one who always made most of the effort, and now I am ready for something equal. Therefore, if I'm not on the same page with someone, I'm going to move on. It's as simple as that.
I've had way too many relationships in my lifetime where I was the one who always made most of the effort, and now I am ready for something equal. Therefore, if I'm not on the same page with someone, I'm going to move on. It's as simple as that.
Monday, September 19, 2011
The Plight of Men Who Aren't the Norm
I was discussing the things that super skinny, shorter-than-average men like myself have to go through with a good friend of mine, and I thought I'd share. Perhaps this may give you a little insight on what being a really thin, shorter guy is like. I'm not writing this so anyone will try and feel sorry for me, I just want you to know that being super thin, shorter, and a male isn't going to have the same reaction from people in today's society as it is for a female. So, in case this is something you've never thought about before, allow me to be your eye-opener for the day.
First off, I'm 5 ft 8 (American male average is 5 ft 9 1/2 for all Americans and 5 ft 10 for male white Americans but that's increasing) and 130 pounds (Very lower part of the average BMI for my height--not underweight, but nowhere near the middle of average for my height), and no, it's not easy for me to gain weight. The most I've ever weighed is 135, and it all was in my belly, which made me feel horrible, kind of hunched over more than I would like, and slowed me down considerably. Even then, just to get like that I had to pack in so much food I literally felt like throwing up all of the time I was so intensely full. Ever tried to force feed yourself when you're not hungry? It's not fun. So, anyway, I stopped trying to do what my body obviously didn't want, and let my own internal rhythm dictate how much food goes in.
Overall, I will say that the idea of weight, in this country at least, is a double standard really. When women are pencil thin they're flocked after, but if a man is pencil thin he's somehow "not good enough" physically in the eyes of a lot of women. Whether it's due to something deep within the DNA that tells them they need to be protected and, in turn, I wouldn't do a good enough job, or perhaps something deep down that indicates a thicker guy would be more likely to survive and would, in turn, potentially produce stronger offspring or WHAT is beyond me, but I think a lot of it has to do with something biological. Which, as funny as this may sound, is also self-defeating when concerned with long-term relationships. What do I mean? Women may go after thicker or taller or more muscular men, and in the short run during their reproductive years that may do something for them (But not much having to do with protection because we don't live in that kind of a rough environment anymore), but in the long run that's a hindrance. Why? Because it is a known fact that shorter, thinner people live longer. Women live longer than men anyway, so right there you've got a strike one. But after doing the research, it seems as though the longest living people ever recorded were short and thin. It makes sense, really. When your heart doesn't have to work so hard to pump blood through a larger frame, it's going to hold up longer. Actually, when concerned with supercentenarians (People that live over 110), I think 8 of the top 10 of the longest living of those people were even under 5 ft! So, it makes you wonder. Women often crave the tall guys, or the beefier guys, but those aren't the guys that will last as long in the long run. I agree. Look at a group of 90 somethings and tell me how many overweight or tall people you see. Not many! Because they’re all dead! Sure--some shrinkage over the years has occured, but it's almost never more than a few inches.
So, it makes you think....is life setting us up? Is it purposefully having us crave massive amounts of bad stuff, and having us go after people who won't last so the population turnover rate will be quicker? And, if that's the case, then what happened with the Asians? Because their bodies seem to be doing what they're supposed to. Staying compact and thin. Or is it just all about a lifestyle thing and our food choices are what are causing our bodies to be larger and taller and, in turn, that's causing our psychological wants to be different because we feel they have to be? It's all interesting to think about.
Another thing I've noticed, which I didn't discuss before concerning dating, is that women seem to be more forgivable if a man is a little thicker or more muscular if he's shorter, or if he's still super skinny it's more forgivable if he's taller. It's almost as if, in order for exceptions to be made, physically something else must be more "normal" in their eyes. So, no, I can't ever say that men are pickier than women. We're both equally bad.
As for being a shorter, thinner guy, in addition to being passed by in the dating world way more than I would like (Although larger women seem to love me for some reason, and I still haven't figured out why I've always been such a big girl magnet), I often have to think in terms of, "If I do something, will I physically get hurt due to my smaller bone structure." Also, when clothes shopping....what torture. Finding "anything" in a small men's is like a needle in a haystack. They still make them, but not as many as the other sizes at ALL. And even then sometimes they're too big. Or pants...waist size I can find, but length isn't always as easy because I'm 2 inches shorter than the average American male.
Or there's the other things--when I eat, I know people are watching me, analyzing how much I eat, thinking I might not be eating enough or fattening enough foods. Also, I know that due to my weight there's bound to be people who might think I'm sick or something, or have Aids or cancer or an eating disorder, but I'm actually perfectly healthy. However, since guys of my weight are far from the norm, that's often something that could easily pop up in their minds. So, these are just a few of many things that I have to go through on a day-to-day basis. Trust me. Being super thin for a male isn't easy. But for a female? Let's think. Society emphasizes thinness for women, so they often have their pick and choose of dating partners or otherwise, unless their faces look like they had an unfortunate accident. And clothing sizes are pretty much geared for their sizes. Noone looks twice if they limit their portion sizes to what their bodies can handle and many actually applaud them for knowing their limits. Noone expects them to be involved in rough activities if they don't feel they're capable of doing so. And unless their ribs are showing or something, noone thinks they have a disease or an eating disorder.
So, double standard? I think so.
Brent
The Basics--I may have already posted this...
After years of studying different religions, the human body and how it works, observing the social patterns of humans and animals, the cosmsos, and just about anything else that interests me at that particular moment, my theory is pretty simple. We need to get back to the basics. We're too focused on the complexities of life that are beyond our control, and are beyond our abilities that too many of us are trying to be the equivalent of singular Gods by boosting ourselves up to a higher and higher level non-stop, and evolution is supposed to be a slower progression than that and, even when it's at its maximum, we're still looking past our greatest gift, which is actually one of the oldest that mankind has. (I'll get to that in a minute) Although we were designed for curiosity and have the capacity for greater understanding of how things work and for artificial creations, in what way is that going to benefit our individual futures once each of us are pushing up daisies? In my opinion, there's a design to the universe overall, and whether that truly happened by chance or by some all-knowing, sentient force that we may or may not have ever been truly aware of, we can never hope to achieve such universal or galaxial or even planetary creation. So, what do we really have, in us, that can not only be our way of creating life, but also a way to pass down our memories, our genetics, and basically the only remnants of "us" that we have to give? Reproduction. Families. Love, compassion, being one with the Earth and doing things more naturally as opposed to artificially. We are given everything we need to live...air to breathe, families to care for and love, water to drink, land to grow things on for food, etc., but we twist things for the purpose of personal power that a lot of us can't even successfully raise families, which is our true creationary (My new word for the day, even though it's really not a word) right, due to how mankind has tried to become individual artificial Gods. Land, as an example, shouldn't have a price. If you see a field and a tree is growing some apples, that tree is provided by the Earth and shouldn't have a penalty to walk on that land in order to feed yourself. I mean, if we did things properly, as an example, and didn't always stay in one place, no one would ever have to worry about territories, and as we walked we'd be spitting out seeds and such and would ensure that no matter where we went, eventually there'd be something growing on that piece of land which could provide food for whoever passed by it. But, instead, we build shopping malls, bow to the powers that be and recognize that even when we think we "own" land we never really own it due to taxes, and the list goes on and on and on. And that, of course, is just a drop in the bucket of the unnatural things we do which forces us to live unnatural lives. Okay, so I got off track a little bit. Don't get me started on that whole concept of land ownership. Anyway, to me, the purpose of life is that, in our own little way, the only way we can truly be like Gods is to produce life, and that means reproduction, which is the most basic but most long-lasting form of creation that we have, but most people seem to have lost sight of that.
More stuff...my past and my future
My Past:
I was born and raised in the middle of a giant corn field in the Midwest in an extremely small town. A very Norman Rockwell-like atmosphere where everyone knew everyone else's name, crime was almost non-existent, and most people stayed married for life. I swear, I'm not making this up! Although stuck in time, towns like that still DO exist! They're just extremely, extremely rare. As for my family, I come from a good, strong, unselfish, close-knit, openly communicative family who looks after one another, doesn't make decisions unless we think about others that the decisions will affect, and are all about love and going out of our way to show it. Especially because of my grandparents and my mom, I know how a real relationship is supposed to work and what you need to do to protect it and make sure it feels safe and secure for both people involved. I want someone else who has these same kind of roots so that they have a constant conscience as well as role models they can follow before making decisions.
My Future:
I'm at the stage in my life where I really have a solid idea of what I'm looking for and, truth be told, that entails finding someone similar to myself in the following ways. I'm looking for someone who instinctively seems to do the right things in life by thinking of how it would affect both their lives and the lives of others, all based on a personal moral code and a mixture of common sense and logic, and this code does not necessarily have to be based on any kind of religion.
I need someone who has a strong conscience that can easily defeat obstacles (Whether by an internal strength, stubbornness, or feelings of potential guilt--whatever leads you to the right path is FINE by me!), someone who protects their significant other from things and people they know will cause the other person emotional harm, someone who does things that's best for both people in a relationship when they make decisions, and someone who has self-control when they're away from the person they really love.
I need someone who has a great big heart, someone who has tons of passion and hope, someone who values commitment to love even during times when things seem confusing, and someone who wants the dream of happily ever after. Impossible, you say? No, because everything I just listed above is exactly who I am and what I want, and if I exist, a woman like me must exist as well, don't you think? I mean, come on! There's 6 billion people on this planet. Surely I'm not the only one who thinks this way!
Once a relationship becomes serious, I need someone who does the right thing, will always stand beside me, and always love me and only me. I need someone who looks at me and knows I'm the only one they'll ever want or need, the only one they want to confide in, and the only one they want to be their best friend whom they want to share everything with.
I was born and raised in the middle of a giant corn field in the Midwest in an extremely small town. A very Norman Rockwell-like atmosphere where everyone knew everyone else's name, crime was almost non-existent, and most people stayed married for life. I swear, I'm not making this up! Although stuck in time, towns like that still DO exist! They're just extremely, extremely rare. As for my family, I come from a good, strong, unselfish, close-knit, openly communicative family who looks after one another, doesn't make decisions unless we think about others that the decisions will affect, and are all about love and going out of our way to show it. Especially because of my grandparents and my mom, I know how a real relationship is supposed to work and what you need to do to protect it and make sure it feels safe and secure for both people involved. I want someone else who has these same kind of roots so that they have a constant conscience as well as role models they can follow before making decisions.
My Future:
I'm at the stage in my life where I really have a solid idea of what I'm looking for and, truth be told, that entails finding someone similar to myself in the following ways. I'm looking for someone who instinctively seems to do the right things in life by thinking of how it would affect both their lives and the lives of others, all based on a personal moral code and a mixture of common sense and logic, and this code does not necessarily have to be based on any kind of religion.
I need someone who has a strong conscience that can easily defeat obstacles (Whether by an internal strength, stubbornness, or feelings of potential guilt--whatever leads you to the right path is FINE by me!), someone who protects their significant other from things and people they know will cause the other person emotional harm, someone who does things that's best for both people in a relationship when they make decisions, and someone who has self-control when they're away from the person they really love.
I need someone who has a great big heart, someone who has tons of passion and hope, someone who values commitment to love even during times when things seem confusing, and someone who wants the dream of happily ever after. Impossible, you say? No, because everything I just listed above is exactly who I am and what I want, and if I exist, a woman like me must exist as well, don't you think? I mean, come on! There's 6 billion people on this planet. Surely I'm not the only one who thinks this way!
Once a relationship becomes serious, I need someone who does the right thing, will always stand beside me, and always love me and only me. I need someone who looks at me and knows I'm the only one they'll ever want or need, the only one they want to confide in, and the only one they want to be their best friend whom they want to share everything with.
Blah Blah Blah
Nothing much to report.
-Still experimenting with color on some planks of wood to try to get exactly what I want before starting the staining of my desk.
-I talked to a girl I have been talking to for about 2 weeks on the phone for the first time last night and the conversation lasted 6 hours! I don't recall having talked that long with anyone on the phone since I was a teen. We get along really well and have tons in common and the attraction is definitely there but, alas, she lives in Idaho. However, we may go halfsies on a plane ticket and I may just have to visit her sometime soon. Still contemplating.
Brent
-Still experimenting with color on some planks of wood to try to get exactly what I want before starting the staining of my desk.
-I talked to a girl I have been talking to for about 2 weeks on the phone for the first time last night and the conversation lasted 6 hours! I don't recall having talked that long with anyone on the phone since I was a teen. We get along really well and have tons in common and the attraction is definitely there but, alas, she lives in Idaho. However, we may go halfsies on a plane ticket and I may just have to visit her sometime soon. Still contemplating.
Brent
Saturday, September 17, 2011
Wheat, Corn and Rice.....
Let's look at the facts....
America: Largest people in the world now, in both being overweight and obese. In face, the "average" male or female now has a body mass index that is in the overweight range. And the primary food we have out of all others? Wheat. Look at the ingredients of just about anything and in it is wheat, flour (Made from wheat), or other wheat-based products.
Mexico: Also really large once they hit middle age especially. And the primary food they eat? Things made with corn.
Asian countries: Smallest, thinnest people in the world as LONG AS they don't live in America. And what is a large part of their food supplement? Not wheat, not corn...but rice.
So, if you're looking for snacks or pasta or what-have-you, try out some rice pastas or just rice or some special crackers that are made out of rice. In the long run, your body can metabolize it better for fuel and, overall, it doesn't contribute to weight gain like wheat and corn do...UNLESS you sit there and eat tons and tons of it like Sumo wrestlers do. But anyway, I just thought it was interesting. Ever went down food aisles and saw HOW many American products are made with wheat? And we're now the most overweight and obese country on the planet. Trust me--there's a big correlation.
My Latest Rant on Nutrition
As for nutrition, it's an interesting thing, really, if you think about how wrong we're probably all doing things.
I mean, first off, let's look at fire.
It's dangerous, all animals run from it, it can kill us as well, it destroys important vitamins and minerals within foods, causes many if not all foods to be at least a little carcinogenic, and tricks our bodies into making food that normally would not be edible, edible, but does that mean our bodies were meant to eat it? So, were we really meant to use fire, heat, microwaves (Oh, don't get me started on those) to heat up food? In my opinion, no.
Now, let's work on meat. If fire isn't supposed to be something we use since it's not a naturally safe thing, then tell me....how palatable are things in the raw to humans such as beef, chicken, or pork? Ever tasted raw beef, chicken or pork? No, and trust me, not a good idea. Not only will it be disgusting, but it'll harbor so much potentially deadly bacteria you could possibly get really sick or, worse, even die (Especially from pork--it's called triginosis). Or, if we were in the wild and had to rely on what nature gave us, would we really be able to tear apart a cow with our bare hands? It's not like we have razor sharp teeth or claws. Or catch a chicken or a pig? We're not exactly the fastest things on the planet. Think about it. About all we seem to be meant to be able to kill and stick in our mouth, honestly, are bugs, and you know THOSE probably taste horrible although, technically speaking from a survivalist standpoint, that's a good way to get protein if you're stranded somewhere.
So, now let's talk about fish. We don't breathe under water. With our own hands, are we able to catch fish or other things in the ocean without using anything? No. Sure, raw fish can taste much better than raw meat so some of it can be edible, but since we aren't water breathers, how would we get fish naturally? Even in freshwater ponds it'd be impossible. The ONLY, and I mean ONLY fish we were probably even meant to catch since it's so easy is when salmon mate and end up in shallow waters during mating season, but even then we'd have to find a way to get through their tough skin with our teeth or fingernails AND usually where the salmon end up are the same places where there's bears, which can eat US.
Now let's talk about grains. Honestly. Ever TASTED raw wheat, uncooked corn, or raw rice? Not only are they disgusting, bland, or could seriously ruin our teeth, I think they were meant for birds, not us.
Next, let's move to vegetables. Literally no calories. Vitamins, yeah, some, but no calories for energy, just vitamins. And most, without something done to them, taste bland bland bland "and" taste horrible raw. They also have no scent. So how would we originally be drawn to them? We wouldn't. We'd just think they were another plant sticking out of the ground. And unlike rabbits, we can't "smell" carrots growing under the ground. Or potatoes or anything else underground related. If we were meant to really ingest any plants, in my opinion, it'd be ones that had an alluring scent, like a lot of herbs, because at least that scent would bring us TO them and when we ate them they'd have a distinct taste. But even then, not a taste that would make us want it really badly.
So, what do we have left? Fruit and nuts. Fruits....filled with vitamins, taste good, we're led to them by scent when they're ripe as well as their colors, and they have calories. So, yes, meant to be eaten by humans. Most definitely.
Nuts. Aren't led to them by scent, and many we have to find a way to crack, but taste good naturally, and aren't overly colorful, but supply protein and minerals.
IMO, humans were, seriously probably only meant to eat fruit, nuts, and perhaps bugs (But bugs are SO pushing it). Honestly. That's it. Nothing else makes sense.
Are you serious????
Yesterday I had a girl write me on OkStupid (My pet name for it), and when looking through the questions she answered, she stated that she thought it was okay to date people who were seeing someone else or married but separated. She wrote me trying to start up a conversation, and I stated I was not interested. She asked why, and here was my response.....
If you must know, first off I'm starting to get interested in someone else at the current moment, but even if that was not making me hesitate, it's the fact that you see no problem with dating people who are seeing someone or married. I didn't get to the other pages, so I'm not sure if there was anything else. Let me tell you some stories as to why I feel that is completely unacceptable.
Me: I was once in love...a big time love, and we had a problem that needed to have me step back a bit. I stepped back but we were STILL seeing one another, and some guy swooped in when she was confused and unsure about what to do. Later, she fully admitted to me that there would've been a huge chance for reconciliation if he wouldn't have done that. Afterwards, however, it was too late, because the trust I had for her was gone. However, IF he wouldn't have been the type to date someone else who was seeing someone else, aka IF he would have done the NOBLE thing to do and stayed away from someone who was secretly confused/hurting, etc. then her and I would've probably been together.
When you intrude during a time someone is seeing someone else, or even married and separated, you're the monkey wrench that could be what screws up the chance for reconciliation. YOU will be the one who screws up the chance for love to reconnect. And yeah, many people will SAY they're really separated and there's no chance, but until it's truly, officially over and finalized, there's always a chance. Case and point: My parents.
They bought a huge house together and it ended up causing so much financial strain that their marriage suffered from it. Their arguments escalated, and in the end it truly seemed like they couldn't stand each other and all of the love was gone. They separated, sold the house, and it seemed like they may be on their way to divorce. However, as they stepped away, they figured out what the problem was, and how it wasn't worth all of that time they devoted to one another, they started seeing one another a little bit at a time and, eventually, the love blossomed again and they ended up back together. Do you think if some other person stepped into the picture and prevented that reconciliation, that would have happened? NO! So, those who do not respect people's relationships OR their chance for reconciliation, in my book, are scum. I'm sorry, but they are. It's not over till' it's over. Period. You don't go throwing a monkey wrench into the works of anything, even if it's on the rocks or SEEMINGLY over, until it is, truly, officially over.
So, after reading your answers to those two questions, I was not just taken back, but it made me feel you were rather selfish and uncaring about others to be able to do something like that. Or, you just haven't been in situations or known people where that would've been a truly bad idea. I don't know which. You call yourself a nice person but, truth be told, that action is NOT a nice action. I don't care what you think "other people do now", because of my personal experiences of myself and my family, I know what the RIGHT thing to do is. I was just deeply saddened that you still don't.
If you must know, first off I'm starting to get interested in someone else at the current moment, but even if that was not making me hesitate, it's the fact that you see no problem with dating people who are seeing someone or married. I didn't get to the other pages, so I'm not sure if there was anything else. Let me tell you some stories as to why I feel that is completely unacceptable.
Me: I was once in love...a big time love, and we had a problem that needed to have me step back a bit. I stepped back but we were STILL seeing one another, and some guy swooped in when she was confused and unsure about what to do. Later, she fully admitted to me that there would've been a huge chance for reconciliation if he wouldn't have done that. Afterwards, however, it was too late, because the trust I had for her was gone. However, IF he wouldn't have been the type to date someone else who was seeing someone else, aka IF he would have done the NOBLE thing to do and stayed away from someone who was secretly confused/hurting, etc. then her and I would've probably been together.
When you intrude during a time someone is seeing someone else, or even married and separated, you're the monkey wrench that could be what screws up the chance for reconciliation. YOU will be the one who screws up the chance for love to reconnect. And yeah, many people will SAY they're really separated and there's no chance, but until it's truly, officially over and finalized, there's always a chance. Case and point: My parents.
They bought a huge house together and it ended up causing so much financial strain that their marriage suffered from it. Their arguments escalated, and in the end it truly seemed like they couldn't stand each other and all of the love was gone. They separated, sold the house, and it seemed like they may be on their way to divorce. However, as they stepped away, they figured out what the problem was, and how it wasn't worth all of that time they devoted to one another, they started seeing one another a little bit at a time and, eventually, the love blossomed again and they ended up back together. Do you think if some other person stepped into the picture and prevented that reconciliation, that would have happened? NO! So, those who do not respect people's relationships OR their chance for reconciliation, in my book, are scum. I'm sorry, but they are. It's not over till' it's over. Period. You don't go throwing a monkey wrench into the works of anything, even if it's on the rocks or SEEMINGLY over, until it is, truly, officially over.
So, after reading your answers to those two questions, I was not just taken back, but it made me feel you were rather selfish and uncaring about others to be able to do something like that. Or, you just haven't been in situations or known people where that would've been a truly bad idea. I don't know which. You call yourself a nice person but, truth be told, that action is NOT a nice action. I don't care what you think "other people do now", because of my personal experiences of myself and my family, I know what the RIGHT thing to do is. I was just deeply saddened that you still don't.
Super Skanks to the rescue!
I wonder....are 14 year olds who dress in super tight short shorts and push-up bras with low cut tank tops the norm now, or is that just a
Florida phenomenon? What the heck? No wonder so many men go to prison. I wonder if teen clothing manufacturers realize that they're
directly contributing to an increasing number of pedophiles. It boggles the mind. What boggles the mind even more is that parents let
their young girls BUY that stuff.
Florida phenomenon? What the heck? No wonder so many men go to prison. I wonder if teen clothing manufacturers realize that they're
directly contributing to an increasing number of pedophiles. It boggles the mind. What boggles the mind even more is that parents let
their young girls BUY that stuff.
Heritage Dr. Pepper
I saw Heritage Dr. Pepper in the store today, made with real sugar. I only see it like once a year, so I buy it when I see it. Good stuff, but I swear it makes you belch like a frog in heat.
Thursday, September 15, 2011
Tattoos are the marks of the insecure
I know a lot of people try to sit there and say "Oh, I got a tattoo because it meant something to me." If that were the case, tattoos would always be hidden, wouldn't they? If it meant something to you and was truly personal, you would want it to remain personal so you'd hide it. In my opinion, 9/10 people who get tattoos are actually insecure. Because if someone was TRULY comfortable in their own skin, not only would they not feel a need to GET a tattoo, but they would definitely have no need to show it off if they had one. You have no IDEA how many pictures I see of women with tattoos on dating sites, and in almost all of them they also have a picture of their tattoos. So, it's obvious they're trying to do something to compensate for something they feel they're lacking--attention. (And I feel the SAME way about those human pin-cushion piercings that make women look like they were in a fishing accident, like when they pierce their noses, eyebrows, lips, or tongues. Blech)
Back to tattoos...I mean, if a woman gets one SMALL one, it is hidden even if she is wearing a bikini, and not on her breasts (Which should always be a no-no--honestly--that's something men like to look at the most if you're not aware) I will then at least somewhat understand if it was something personal because then it would be obvious that it WAS by her REALLY making an effort to HIDE it! But if someone puts one where it can be shown off even in a swimsuit, has more than one, or it's really large then, sorry--whether you can admit to it or not, you got it/them because you're trying to show off. Which, in my book, equals insecurity. So, my advice to you who are thinking about getting more tattoos if you have one/some, stop now. Because smart people are going to pick up on why you're doing that. And if you haven't got one but are thinking about one, although I personally don't condone them, if you HAVE to get one because it's personal, only get one, make it REALLY small, and hidden from view, perhaps to the right or left of your pubic bone or something so it truly DOES remain personal and even on the beach it stays that way.
You can agree to disagree if you want, but that's how I see it.
Those who feel comfortable in their own skin do not need to change it. Period.
Back to tattoos...I mean, if a woman gets one SMALL one, it is hidden even if she is wearing a bikini, and not on her breasts (Which should always be a no-no--honestly--that's something men like to look at the most if you're not aware) I will then at least somewhat understand if it was something personal because then it would be obvious that it WAS by her REALLY making an effort to HIDE it! But if someone puts one where it can be shown off even in a swimsuit, has more than one, or it's really large then, sorry--whether you can admit to it or not, you got it/them because you're trying to show off. Which, in my book, equals insecurity. So, my advice to you who are thinking about getting more tattoos if you have one/some, stop now. Because smart people are going to pick up on why you're doing that. And if you haven't got one but are thinking about one, although I personally don't condone them, if you HAVE to get one because it's personal, only get one, make it REALLY small, and hidden from view, perhaps to the right or left of your pubic bone or something so it truly DOES remain personal and even on the beach it stays that way.
You can agree to disagree if you want, but that's how I see it.
Those who feel comfortable in their own skin do not need to change it. Period.
Potato Chips and other snacks
Whatever happened to the days where chip manufacturers actually put chips to almost near the top of the bag INSTEAD OF only half full? Those money grubbing slime-balls should be ashamed of themselves.
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
So, I met a girl....
So, I met a girl online. A little shy when it concerns some things, and a little not shy when it concerns others, but overall, we match. We really do. It's like I'm talking to someone who just "gets me." Her manner of thinking pertaining to all of the things that are really important to me, well, match, and I have to admit that matching me is a TOUGH thing to do. But, the problem is...she lives oh so far away. Sure, we can have IM chats, emails, move our way up to Skypes and phone calls but, eventually, if things progress, this will entail a meet. But will I want to move to the other side of the country if we hit it off if we did meet? Or will she want to move? It's all interesting to think about. The possibilities, the things people might do for something real if it happens, etc. etc. I always envisioned myself living in Florida but, perhaps, overall, maybe that's just not where I was meant to be. I just don't know. I guess only time and fate know that for certain.
Tuesday, September 13, 2011
Doh!
I'm a good, decent guy. I really am. And I would, in no way whatsoever, be serious about talking to a woman who poses in a personal ad wearing only her underwear or a swimsuit, but I've got to tell you, I still click on those pictures anyway just to look at them. It almost seems like it's beyond my control. Us men, when it comes to women showing skin, are pretty much the equivalent of a fish looking at a hook with bait on it and, even though they've already chomped at one before and got hooked and thrown back into the water, they still chomp at it anyway. Yes, we are fully aware that it's the kind of bait we shouldn't be chewing into, but we still take the bait. Over and over and over again. It's like my mind goes blank and then my finger takes over the mouse button or something. I....just....can't.....help it! No, I don't talk to those women, but it still doesn't stop me from looking at them.
LOL
LOL
Working, the economy, and kids
I recently wrote this to a friend. We were talking about why it is supposedly too difficult for just one person in a relationship to work (Whether the man OR the woman) and here was my response:
As for our economy making it so that both people have to work, I disagree. I think the primary problem is the fact that what we deem as "average" for house sizes, car sizes (SUV's seem to be the in thing but they are expensive!!!) etc. have now escalated to the point where the word average is not average compared to the past and, in turn, that means much more expensive. If we all, tomorrow, reverted to buying 800-1,000 square feet 2 bedroom houses and even if we had 2 kids had them share a room, and in a 1-level house at that--ranch style, and economy cars.....our payments would be SO much lower that, in fact, both people would not HAVE to work. And in the past? That was doable. But by WANTING more now, we have to pay more. That, again, is why I think it's ridiculous that people have to constantly feel as though they have to upgrade. When you upgrade your "stuff", you downgrade your "life." It then becomes about debt and having little time for the family. Will it be a little more crowded if we downgrade in our own houses? Sure, BUT, on the other hand, that also means the families will be a lot closer.
I do agree that the middle class will cease to exist, but I also believe a lot of it will be due to greed. Not just the greed of the rich people making it so incomes are minimal in this country and expenses are high, but the greed of the middle class wanting things that, 50 years ago, would be considered only for the rich. Average to us, as I said before, is extravagant to people in the past. We, as a middle class society, need to downgrade in order to get ourselves out of debt and be able to spend more time with people who are important to us. If we don't, we'll have kids raised by others--the t.v., the internet, their friends, and not really raised by us. And we'll continue to see an increase in divorce because couples will not have enough time to spend together, and that also screws the kids up. So, overall, we can blame the economy or expenses all we want but, in truth, it all starts with us. If things are too expensive, we need to want less. It's as simple as that.
Monday, September 12, 2011
Blades of Glory
I just watched that movie this morning. How can you NOT laugh out loud when the two male leads do their first skating duet? OMG SO wrong. LOL. But oh so funny.
Brent
Brent
Sunday, September 11, 2011
Jesus? Is that you?
For all of you religious types (I'm agnostic)......
I found out where Jesus was hiding in the 1970's. Just in case you were curious....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vJtf7R_oVaw
I found out where Jesus was hiding in the 1970's. Just in case you were curious....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vJtf7R_oVaw
New Monitor
I got a new monitor last night. I've basically been using this 19 inch CRT tube for the last 15 years. I kid you not. That thing was built like a tank. However, I found a vintage desk that I'm transforming into a computer desk and needed something thinner, so I opted for a new flat-screen LED monitor that does 1080P HD video as well. All I can say is...wow. Although the majority of what I do is text-related, and I've seen high-def 1080P videos being played in stores such as Best Buy, you just don't really understand the quality differences until you've been able to toy around with the kind of video for a night. I don't have a blu-ray player in my computer, but I've been watching movie trailers that were broadcast in 1080P online to see the quality. It really takes off on the cartoons such as Shrek 4, Toy Story 3 and previews like that. It's so cool. And the brightness and color levels are great, too. LED is definitely the wave of the future. A huge 23 inch monitor and it only takes 33 watts of power to use. Less than 1/2 of a light bulb "and" this thing weighs 7 pounds. My old monitor took 100 watts and weighed 40 pounds.
Brent
Brent
Saturday, September 10, 2011
Manscaping
Most men don't admit this stuff, but we all do it. We have to. We're rather hairy creatures and would all look like grizzly bears if we didn't. First off, I will tell you that, as a man, shaving our faces....sucks. I've never been very good at it, and I often come out of the bathroom looking like Freddie from Nightmare and Elm Street just got a hold of me. I think I've finally managed to find a good balance of what to do, but it's time consuming. I have to shave my face with an electric razor and shave my neck with a regular razor. If I alternate then I either get razor bumps or cut myself...inevitably. As for other hair, men get a little fuzz on the top of their ears we have to take care of, nose hairs ALWAYS need to be trimmed, and if we don't pluck at least some most of us would develop a unibrow, so of course THAT needs to be taken care of.
Chest-wise, that varies. When I first came down to Florida, I didn't realize HOW many men down here actually shaved their chests. Seeing all natural men down here is only done if they come from other areas, such as the NE and such and they're just here on vacation. So, that's what I had started doing and, although nice and clean looking and if I was working out definitely showed muscle tone, it was a pain in the butt AND because I already have really soft, almost effeminate looks about me, didn't exactly help me in the masculinity looking department. So, recently I started letting some grow, and once it reaches a certain length I'm just going to trim it really short, just not shave it. Also, a tiny bit of hair gives me an illusion of being a little darker, which I need because when I shaved my chest and my shirt was off I was, literally, so white I looked like something a female version of Casper would have had a sex dream about. So anyway...then there's the arm pit hair. You know, most women don't know this about men. They think that all men just leave that area alone. We can't. Like the hair on our heads, if we just let that grow it'd be so long we could braid the stuff. So, yes, we ALL cut it or trim it, some so it shows a little, and some really short. I, personally, trim it really short. I find that it cuts down on sweat and, therefore, even though I DO use deoderant/anti-persperant, it helps me go longer without needing to re-apply.
Back hair, I've been lucky enough for me to not have to worry about it most of the time. I may get a little bit of fuzz or a stray hair here and there and end up doing a contortionist thing in the shower in order to reach the area with a razor, but for the most part it seems as though my back area seems relatively hair-free. Whew!
Leg hair I leave alone, but if it gets TOO long I do trim it so it's a little shorter, just not much. Now for what you're really wondering about. The short curlies. LOL. Well, whether women realize this or not, most men nowadays DO trim, and it's less about it being an "in" thing like it seems to be for women than it is the fact that we all have this desire to make our willies look bigger. It's true. Most men nowadays, and I've confirmed this with other female friends who, of course, have seen other men, trim that area, and usually short, which is what I do as well. (NOT shave! Just short. No use resorting to looking like a pre-pubescent, y'know?) The shorter the pubes, the "bigger" our packages look. It's true. LOL. Now every now and then, especially if I don't have anyone special in my life who sees me, I'll let it grow somewhat natural, but after walking by a mirror after a shower a few times if I want to add to my self-confidence level I'll just know I need to trim it short again. LOL
Could you imagine what we'd all look like, overall, if we let ALL of our hair and fingernails and toenails grow and never touch them? Eeks. It's a thought, and not a pretty one. Anyway, this goes to show you that, no, women don't have exclusivity when it comes to hair maintenance. At all.
Ch-Ch-Ch-Chia
Remember the old Chia Pet commercials?
I always thought it'd be a good lesson for children growing up to learn about puberty if they would have made anatomically correct male and female chia figures, and had the kids put the seeds in certain strategic places and then water them to get the chia, aka the emulated "hair" to pop out. That's an idea just waiting to pop, don't you think?
:P
I always thought it'd be a good lesson for children growing up to learn about puberty if they would have made anatomically correct male and female chia figures, and had the kids put the seeds in certain strategic places and then water them to get the chia, aka the emulated "hair" to pop out. That's an idea just waiting to pop, don't you think?
:P
Decatur, Illinois
Although I generally lived in the smaller towns surrounding it, the primary area where I’m from is in the Decatur, Illinois area. It’s an interesting place, to say the least. A manufacturing town that is, literally, surrounded by corn fields and smaller surrounding towns out in the middle of nowhere. It’s a place where some remember a place called Elam’s drive-in, which was a restaurant where they served some of the best tasting root beer ever, as well as Pork Tenderloin sandwiches that were literally the diameter of a child’s head and dwarfed the bun the were on. For those of you who are unfamiliar with what a pork tenderloin sandwich actually is since it’s generally a Midwestern occurrence, here’s a good description:
A pork tenderloin sandwich (also called simply a "tenderloin") is a very thinly sliced piece of pork, usually the larger, tougher loineye (longissimus) muscle, uniquely battered and breaded, which is deep fried and served on a hamburger bun. This is usually served with mustard, ketchup, pickle and onion. This sandwich is generally only sold in the US Midwest.
Although, for mine, I only had it with ketchup. I LOATHE mustard and pickles, by the way.
Anyway, Decatur is a place known for its famous Rooster or chicken car, which is a car with a giant rooster head on the top of it which belongs to the owners of the Krekel’s restaurant chain, which I distinctly remember as a young child because on their ice cream cones they put these almost glitter-like candy sprinkles on them. Decatur is also a little different when it concerns race. Down here in Florida, where you can have a mix of anything and everything pertaining to races, in Decatur it does seem as though whites and blacks are rather separate. It seems like 95% of the black people in Decatur live on Martin Luther King, Jr. Blvd., and at least when I was there, and it was unfortunate, but white people had a distinct fear of black people, and black people had a clear distrust and perhaps even hatred of white people. It’s almost like the backlash from the days before the Civil War are STILL going on there, which is completely contradictory to how it’s like in Florida, where everyone is a huge mix. I have two neighbors down here that are black and are actually the nicest black people I think I’ve met. Whereas in Decatur, I remember getting, literally, GLARES from black people if I even GLANCED their direction up there.
So, although I do miss the better small town morals and family gatherings and how they celebrated the holidays and such up there, I do NOT miss the obvious segregation that is still going on. Now, my more relaxed stance does not mean that I could be INTO black girls. I’m not. I am only attracted to girls with lighter skin for the most part, even if they ARE Caucasian. But, as far as feeling comfortable around black people, I feel MUCH more comfortable down here than I do up there because of the perception differences. I still have NO concept of their culture, music, etc., but at least I feel more comfortable and like if I glanced their direction for a second I wasn’t going to have them try to pick a fight with me for no apparent reason. Up there, it’s another story entirely from what I recall. Maybe times have changed, though, since it was 11 years since I lived up there.
Another interesting thing about Decatur is how, the more North you go, the higher the real estate. The closer you get to a town called Forsyth, the more you have a better chance of selling your house it seems. LOL. Another interesting thing is that there are so many things with the name of Faries. Faries Park, Faries Parkway, Faries road. People in Decatur still, to this day, incorrectly pronounce it Fairies, like a tinkerbell fairy. When, in fact, after careful research, I have found that it was actually pronounced Fahrees, and was named after a guy who started the Faries Manufacturing Plant that was in operation MANY many years ago. I, actually, have a vintage lamp that they made that I use every day that was made back in 1936.
Another interesting thing I remember about Decatur is a place called Del’s Popcorn shop, which has a smell that is the epitome of sweet when you walked by it or inside of it. They make things such as caramel apples, popcorn balls, and tons of different candies and such, and it has been in operation since 1934. When you go inside, at least from what I recall the last time I was there, you can still see a few design elements here and there from days gone by. Which is another thing I liked about Decatur. From a visual standpoint, if you look at some of the older buildings, houses, etc., you can tell that there’s still a lot of architectural history left in that town. That’s one thing I really miss about the Midwest, its more intact history. Florida doesn’t have a whole lot of older houses and buildings left due to our warmer, more humid climate and myriad number of bugs that like to chew on wood (As well as umpteen years of hurricanes), and I definitely miss that.
Two other things I remember about Decatur, is how it always tried to keep the older theaters called The Avon and Lincoln still up and running downtown. Although they have tried anything and everything, from movie playing to plays, and they have managed to salvage some of the past remnants of their former glory, since the new movie theaters went in at Forsyth in the early part of the 1980s, those two things just never could keep up no matter what entertainment venue they have tried. But I have been inside both of them, and they must have been spectacular in their day. I think I even read somewhere that George Burns even performed at one of them during his old Vaudeville days. They’ve been around THAT long.
Overall, there’s a lot of things about Decatur that I remember. Even the smell that I seem to be one of the few who enjoyed as you’re driving over Staley bridge that goes over Staley Manufacturing plant. I remember when I was little and I always tried to roll down the window because I loved that smell. Whereas, to everyone else, they found that smell hideous. Or the cool older houses on the West end. Ah. Memories.
Some of the unique physical characteristics I like to look at.
Although I am NOT saying I have to have these qualities, I find it interesting how my eyes often shift towards women who have unique physical characteristics that aren’t the norm.
For some weird reason, I like looking at women who:
- Are really cute but still wear glasses instead of contacts
- Have really tall foreheads
- Have ears that stick out a little bit or perhaps even oversized ears
- Are so white that no one would ever find them if they got lost in a snowstorm
- Have a few freckles on their cheeks.
- Have a combo of really dark hair and either blue or green eyes. It’s a combo I don’t see very often.
- Women who are really short
- Women with small chests. I have no idea why I think that’s cute, as most men don’t.
- Women who have hourglass figures
- Women who have really white teeth, but one or two of their teeth are a little crooked
- Women with really tiny noses
Dating Pointers
I recently read these dating pointers and thought I'd pass them along to any single people who are reading this.
Old rule: You can tell if you’re truly attracted to someone in three seconds
New rule: You can’t tell if you’re truly attracted to someone until you’ve had three dates
“Love at first sight” is a familiar romantic notion. And in our increasingly fast-paced world, it’s darn convenient to think you can tell if you click with someone that quickly. But experts recommend cultivating a bit more patience, sticking to a three-date minimum to know for sure whether you’re a match (or not). The reason: people are a bundle of nerves on date #1, begin to unwind on date #2, but only by date #3 can people truly relax and maybe build some rapport. And while sparks early on are nice and all, they say nothing about someone’s long-term potential. “An important part of a compatible relationship is ensuring that each partner’s values coincide — and to learn that takes time, discussion, observation, and interpersonal interaction, not an initial impression based on superficial cues,” says James C. Piers, Ph.D., professor and program director of social work at Hope College in Holland, MI. So, don’t write someone off (or fall head over heels) until you’ve done your due diligence.
Old rule: Your mate must meet all the criteria on your “must-have list”
New rule: A “must-have list” looks great on paper, but paper won’t keep you warm at night
You can check off the attributes you want — appearance, background, education, etc. — but unless you’re building your partner in a lab, you’re missing out. Of course, you should have standards and not settle for a two-packs-a-day smoker who doesn’t want kids when you’re allergic to cigarette smoke and eager to start a family... but settling for nothing less than perfection is unrealistic. “Wish lists are a classic recipe for unsuccessful dating,” says Fleming. “They’re too limiting and don’t allow for chemistry, which is more intangible and valuable.” Try to be flexible, especially when it comes to physical or material attributes like someone’s height, salary, or hair color. After all, just because someone’s 6’2”, blonde, or makes six figures doesn’t mean he or she will make you happy, so do yourself a favor and treat your wish list describing your ideal mate as just one factor in deciding who’s right for you.
Old rule: Opposites attract
New rule: Opposites distract
Dating your diametric opposite might mean the surprise of relating to someone really new and different than your usual type, lots of challenging banter and scintillating chemistry — but sustaining a partnership with this person may ultimately prove to be unfulfilling. “The classic couple with nothing in common except their on-fire fights plays well in the movies, but in real life, that attraction fizzles quickly,” says Alyssa Wodtke, coauthor of Truth, Lies, and Online Dating: Secrets to Finding Romance on the Internet. “If you don’t like to do the same things, there will be nothing for you to do together outside of the bedroom. And if you don’t want the same things for the future, what kind of future can you have?”
Old rule: Your first kiss should be a toe-curling experience
New rule: Your first kiss is ultimately inconsequential
In fairy tales, an amazing first kiss leads to happily ever after — no wonder we place such importance on that primary pucker! But there are ample reasons why a first kiss from a potentially great partner can go awry (like nervousness or a less-than-ideal setting) — and just as many to explain why a first kiss from Mr./Ms. Wrong can feel so right (you’ve just been dumped and are looking for validation, perhaps?). “A kiss can be a romantic, erotic experience with someone you find physically attractive, but a relationship will crumble without more complex attributes, like shared values,” points out Piers. So rather than write someone off following a less-than-mindblowing kiss, smile and move in slowly for smooch number two — either at that moment or on a subsequent date. Trust us, you owe it to yourselves.
Old rule: You can tell if you’re truly attracted to someone in three seconds
New rule: You can’t tell if you’re truly attracted to someone until you’ve had three dates
“Love at first sight” is a familiar romantic notion. And in our increasingly fast-paced world, it’s darn convenient to think you can tell if you click with someone that quickly. But experts recommend cultivating a bit more patience, sticking to a three-date minimum to know for sure whether you’re a match (or not). The reason: people are a bundle of nerves on date #1, begin to unwind on date #2, but only by date #3 can people truly relax and maybe build some rapport. And while sparks early on are nice and all, they say nothing about someone’s long-term potential. “An important part of a compatible relationship is ensuring that each partner’s values coincide — and to learn that takes time, discussion, observation, and interpersonal interaction, not an initial impression based on superficial cues,” says James C. Piers, Ph.D., professor and program director of social work at Hope College in Holland, MI. So, don’t write someone off (or fall head over heels) until you’ve done your due diligence.
Old rule: Your mate must meet all the criteria on your “must-have list”
New rule: A “must-have list” looks great on paper, but paper won’t keep you warm at night
You can check off the attributes you want — appearance, background, education, etc. — but unless you’re building your partner in a lab, you’re missing out. Of course, you should have standards and not settle for a two-packs-a-day smoker who doesn’t want kids when you’re allergic to cigarette smoke and eager to start a family... but settling for nothing less than perfection is unrealistic. “Wish lists are a classic recipe for unsuccessful dating,” says Fleming. “They’re too limiting and don’t allow for chemistry, which is more intangible and valuable.” Try to be flexible, especially when it comes to physical or material attributes like someone’s height, salary, or hair color. After all, just because someone’s 6’2”, blonde, or makes six figures doesn’t mean he or she will make you happy, so do yourself a favor and treat your wish list describing your ideal mate as just one factor in deciding who’s right for you.
Old rule: Opposites attract
New rule: Opposites distract
Dating your diametric opposite might mean the surprise of relating to someone really new and different than your usual type, lots of challenging banter and scintillating chemistry — but sustaining a partnership with this person may ultimately prove to be unfulfilling. “The classic couple with nothing in common except their on-fire fights plays well in the movies, but in real life, that attraction fizzles quickly,” says Alyssa Wodtke, coauthor of Truth, Lies, and Online Dating: Secrets to Finding Romance on the Internet. “If you don’t like to do the same things, there will be nothing for you to do together outside of the bedroom. And if you don’t want the same things for the future, what kind of future can you have?”
Old rule: Your first kiss should be a toe-curling experience
New rule: Your first kiss is ultimately inconsequential
In fairy tales, an amazing first kiss leads to happily ever after — no wonder we place such importance on that primary pucker! But there are ample reasons why a first kiss from a potentially great partner can go awry (like nervousness or a less-than-ideal setting) — and just as many to explain why a first kiss from Mr./Ms. Wrong can feel so right (you’ve just been dumped and are looking for validation, perhaps?). “A kiss can be a romantic, erotic experience with someone you find physically attractive, but a relationship will crumble without more complex attributes, like shared values,” points out Piers. So rather than write someone off following a less-than-mindblowing kiss, smile and move in slowly for smooch number two — either at that moment or on a subsequent date. Trust us, you owe it to yourselves.
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