I find it really interesting how people are always trying to upgrade when looking for a mate. What I mean is that we have a society filled with people constantly trying to get better (In their opinion, at least) than what they happen to be physically.
Even if a woman is, as an example, a mere 5 foot, they somehow instinctively think that they need a much taller man, and sometimes even way over the American average in height. Or, if a woman or a man happens to be plain, somewhat cute, or not even cute at all, that they think they actually have a shot at people who looked like they stepped off a runway, or out of a swimsuit magazine or off of a calendar.
It boggles the mind. The reason for my rant is simple, and it all has to do with a recent profile I read from a woman who was a mere 5 ft 2 and she stated that she would not even respond to anyone who was under 5 ft 11. Was I a bit unnerved by that? As a man who is only 5 ft 8, of course I was. However, it went deeper than that because even the average American male after the age of 20 is only 5 ft 9 1/2. (5 ft 10 for those Americans between the age of 20-29)
The height thing always made me wonder, actually, because it's self-defeating to the human race to want people who keep getting taller and taller and taller. Most people who make it to one hundred plus actually are on the shorter side, and it's not all due to shrinkage. (Which only accounts for an average of 1-2 inches by the time someone is old)
Basically, if you have the same engine in a compact car and a stretched limo, which engine do you think is going to have to do more work and, in turn, conk out earlier? Something to think about, especially for women, since they live an average of 5 years longer than men in this country and, even then, shorter guys live longer than taller ones on average to begin with.
Anyway, whatever the case, I just keep seeing this pattern of people wanting to physically upgrade (In their opinion, at least, but not always mine) on singles sites over and over and over again. People want something above and beyond the ordinary, even if THEY are not that extraordinary.
I'm sorry, but if you don't look like a supermodel, don't think you can get one. If you're a female, for heaven's sakes give guys closer to your own height a shot. Or if you're a male OR a female, if you're pudgy, give pudgy people a shot, if you're thin, give thin people a shot, if you're plain, give plain people a shot, if you're cute, stick with cute people but don't go for gorgeous, and so on and so forth.
Although I realize that we are biologically engineered to always try to go after the strongest and the most muscular and the most fertile and so on and so forth to supposedly make the species stronger, in effect, while it might make it stronger and more powerful and of taller stature, that does not mean it'll help it to live longer or BE better.
In today's society, we strive for relationships, and those that will LAST for as long as humanly possible. So don't be so freaking picky, and stop trying to upgrade. Sometimes what you think is actually an upgrade may, in fact, be a downgrade when it comes to overall life and QUALITY of life as well. Therefore, give other types closer to your own type a shot. You may be quite surprised at what they can really give you.
PS--For you statistics hounds who want to dispute the height theory, read the following…
http://books.google.com/books?id=PCU0RwDI6c4C&pg=PA102&lpg=PA102&dq=average+height+of+centenarians&source=bl&ots=syWH-qE8Rg&sig=FtyaBeuefFFYXTCnZgor3odNXvQ&hl=en&sa=X&ei=DZhtT6vEC82asgKmj_WDBg&ved=0CB4Q6AEwAA#v=onepage&q=average%20height%20of%20centenarians&f=false
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