Love and Like

I recently had a person tell me that I did not love them because I could not accept them how they were. That, in fact, is not true. I cared about her, as I did all of my ex-gf's in some way. But just because you care about someone and those feelings blossom into love does not mean you always like them or what they may say, do, or do to themselves (Or you). So, I have loved people but not always liked them, and I also have liked some people but just didn't have the feelings of love for them, but not once have I loved AND liked everything about someone at the same time.

Now, I do realize that everyone has flaws in one way or another, and for some things I didn't really see them as flaws, but with others, I suppose I did. I guess the tolerance level of what you will and will not accept as a likable trait is going to vary with each situation.

This is why I have vowed to never settle for less than what I want, need, and deserve. I no longer need people in my life who are not going to respect their own bodies or their sense of self worth, respect my feelings, make me suspicious of their motives, or make things seem chaotic and unpredictable.

I am, finally, looking for a woman who is put together. Someone who is already "there" without me feeling like there's something about her I need to improve. This is why it's finally time to meet a woman as opposed to little girls who have so many issues. Because, although I want to BE a dad, I do not want to be a father to a girlfriend or future wife. I can no longer sit there and wait for them to grow up. I just don't have the time for that.