Unrealistic Expectations in Relationships--single ladies, read up!

Unrealistic expectations:

I find it fascinating how so many women looking for someone have such unrealistic expectations. Let’s be honest here. What are the odds, truly, of a woman finding a man who is:

-Super hot with a great body but isn’t A: A player, B: Full of himself, C: Extremely superficial, or D: All of the above?

-Makes a great living, has always been at the top, and who will always be at the top but yet will always have tons of time for her to do non-stop adventures with? First off, most men (And women) fall off the horse time and time again and have to get back on. That’s life. So just because someone is or isn’t doing well now doesn’t mean they’ll always be in that same spot. Secondly, unless someone is a world-famous architect who can work at his own pace or a part-time Doctor (And have you EVER seen a part-time Doctor? Truly) he’s not going to meet the money AND time requirements. In the real world when the common person works, they don’t have oodles of time or energy left. That’s why it’s called settling down. Real life is not college when a lot of men are often free except when it’s finals-time, and it’s not Disney so they’re not going to be always-rich princes. So deal with it. Love the man, not what he makes or what he can do for you but, rather, for who he IS.

-Or, how about thinking a man will always need to be exciting and mysterious with new things you learn about him every day? Wow, these ladies have obviously never been in long-term relationships before. After time, you’ll get an occasional surprise and learn something new, but once you know someone extremely well, almost as well as you know yourself, then you need to love KNOWING WHO THEY ARE and not being in love with the exciting and the unexpected. That’s how a long-term relationship works. You may fall in love with them learning all the new things you learn about them, but people will only stay in love with one another if you learn to love knowing what to expect from them because they’re such a great person and you love knowing that. When the predictable, solid, stable person you see in front of you becomes what you love, then and only then will you have a chance to make it for the long haul. But if you crave constant newness, you aren’t cut out for a long term relationship.

-Expecting a dangerous bad-boy to someone become a knight in shining armor. I’m sure, in some genetically archaic way based on early, outdated survival instincts, a lot of these men may seem fun to mate with but, in the long run, I can almost guarantee they’re going to break your heart and never be what you had hoped they could become. Trust me, this isn’t Disney. Most of the time, a beast will always remain a beast. Neanderthals will never make good long-term partners. Period.

Some single ladies have SO much to learn. They should be teaching this “Duh, no-brainer stuff” in schools. Seriously.